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Dinners have become trickier in this household. Once upon a time, the four of us ate dinner as a family, with placemats and napkins and glasses of water. One kid set & cleared the table, one kid did the dishes. There was an orderliness, and we all knew it.
Earlier this year I finally had to face the fact that family dinners just didn't happen any more. Josh was in Atlanta, Ian was working at Starbucks, often at nights. I got home from work at 7pm to find that Lauren had been snacking all afternoon and had no interest in dinner at that hour. The fact that I am vegetarian and she is not made it even less likely that we were going to sit down and enjoy a meal together.
So, very reluctantly, I changed tactics. Now, I make several (veg and non-veg) re-heatable meals on Sundays. People can eat them when they are hungry. I've had to let go of my attachment to family dinners, and just stock the fridge, and hope that the love comes through regardless.
Today's efforts resulted in Macaroni and Cheese, Chicken and Spinach Casserole, and Ratatoille.
![Emeril's Three-Cheese Baked Macaroni](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/blogger_img_proxy/AEn0k_uQb8i3Z1fvJ9jhqLh4F7bo8B2u7eFdRM0cxsOVgZP8arliJB62tJlxXKqeF_2nIr8qDUsNkIVJLFeAZj9oPHdDYYhkMvPMD1TpdHGNAARK3QMmi3VzJBQ39oiLxPUEXUs=s0-d)
![Chicken and Spinach Casserole](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/blogger_img_proxy/AEn0k_uHJ3KvbFfC6By5rTc7q1iG2L4RdSRi0Gi9Ypx5elxcu1zO_Xry140Le3v2TYnS_GBjPPtgCQOf-ZOaNhfC2O86VnCX0tHfZzubcoaBwNQi56UF8LEl7VA6wrgNjs70GAc=s0-d)
My other 'output' today was a bunch of flannel burp cloths. Josh requested a couple of sets to give to workmates who have recently spawned.
![Burp cloths](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/blogger_img_proxy/AEn0k_tRQJ2HnRsuJZlWA_TDXt_AoYLDRd-DJXrRrJQwQSsOniBOi2dgg_5ifISFe2IoQYo3-cHWdBu8VGV-attupyzjmlEwBiUpP3m9l8Ghn7d1ZPoh3o5Mo78uJ0et3J89NW8=s0-d)
![burp cloth tag](https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/blogger_img_proxy/AEn0k_tMxM7E-O6IalyNjrNCJoUokRc5fFm6j_EyAcP8spqbWjNm3wKaMSVo5p6pY3aoQwE2ZBofD5hcGm-_vtG1iYxT_zL0e3JwrqcVrAFQ_ks3PnriLoFDpC-YvxHbAQxVgQ=s0-d)
I usually strive for 'gender neutral' patterns/colors when I make generic baby gifts. Which leads me to a new rant: why on earth are some colors and patterns considered 'boy-suitable' and others taboo? Why is a caterpillar OK for a boy, but a butterfly is not? What about flowers? And shades of pink? The spotted flannel above contains several pinks; does that make it a 'girl' fabric? Does anyone care? If so, why?
Also, why is it more acceptable to give a girl "boy" stuff, than give a boy "girl" stuff?
I would be interested to hear your thoughts. Because it's for sure getting me a bit agitated.