Monday, April 11, 2011

Time to go

Hashi and Josh
Second date, Santa Barbara Botanic Gardens, March 20, 2004.

Dear Josh, Ian and Lauren,

Well, it’s been a fun ride this past seven years. You Meltzers are pretty awesome, and you’ve taught me a lot, given me tons of laughs and helped me grow into a better person. Just because I’m not living with you now, it doesn’t mean I don’t love you heaps. You all have my phone number, so please feel free to dial it, if ever you need some Hashi-love. You know: a yummy meal, a hike, an art museum visit, an ear, a Scrabble game, a sewing lesson, help with Excel, bail … anything like that.

Ian and Lauren, I will always be your stepmother. Don’t ever think of me as an ‘ex’. Anything you need, just call or email. Any time. If Mom and Dad don’t understand, I might. And please, invite me to your performances. I would love to celebrate your successes with you. But I’m also here for your dark times. Remember that. I’m a good listener, and not prone to giving lectures. I’ve lived through some dark times myself. I might just understand.

Josh, you rock. You are gallant, kind, generous, gentle, hardworking, funny, and literate (despite not knowing how to spell ‘litter’). Thank you for being the best husband I’ve ever known. Thank you for loving me, my cat, and my kids. I am immensely sad that we are parting. You know that.

So yeah ..

In the words of the immortal Garrison Keillor: Be well, do good work, and keep in touch.

I love you all.


“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
— Buddhist proverb


Penny said...

What a lovely thing to write. I am glad I know you.
I wonder what is around the corner? Love Penny

SEWN said...

A beautiful letter.

Mostly Turquoise said...

Great, and grand, to be able to write in this loving way. Wishing you all the best for what's next!
Regina, SXM

Anonymous said...

Hashi, You are love personified. My kids and I are better for having you in our lives. I loved you then and love you now and will forever. I wish you nothing but peace, health, happiness and many new wonderful experiences.

nettie said...

Sweetness, your heart is so big. I love you for your generosity and kindness.

The Hungry Crafter said...

Hi Hashi,
I'm one of your "lurker" readers, and just want to say that I wish you all the best. My heart is heavy for you, but I can tell from your writing that you are a survivor and will thrive in whatever new form your life takes on. I do hope all your future adventures are grand.

deb did it said...

You will survive and thrive! This is a beautiful letter.

Tui Cook said...

much much much love.
This is beauty and so are you.
I love you mum.

Wendee said...

When this showed up in my Googlereader, I sat for a good long time and read it with tears in my eyes. What a powerful, personal thing to share. Wishing you peace and strength, Hashi.